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Old August 5th, 2011, 08:14 PM
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Sometimes what people get offended by is beyond me....can you help me here? On another site within a group a friend was posted as having a birthday, some clever person mocked up a poster with her face on it & added the wording underneath "Happy birthday XXXX" I said this ''How clever! especially the way you removed the wording that said "wanted dead or alive" This caused UNTOLD offense to some, not I hasten to add the birthday girl. I would like to know why it was offensive as I just cannot see it, I have asked but nobody will say, I even explained this was a joke & why it was a joke & how it was supposed to be amusing (I know if you gotta explain 'em they ain't that funny) but I am at a loss to see why people were upset. Please advise!!
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No thoughts? I need some help here, I am obviously doing something wrong but I just don't see what!
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No thoughts? I need some help here, I am obviously doing something wrong but I just don't see what!
JTD I have read your OP 3 times and I don't get what caused offence either unless there was something in the poster?

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It's a mystery to me too? I do know, however, that some people seem to live, to be offended!

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Nope, just a poster with the persons face on it with ''happy Birthday'' on it, I just complimented the person who did it by saying "how clever" & then the punchline was "especially removing the wanted bit". I know the person as an online friend & as a Facebook friend, I had wished her happy birthday privately. I am at a complete loss to understand how this caused any offence at all never mind the mayhem & actual hatred that occurred!! Nobody would say why & when I tried to explain it made things worse.
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I gotta see this, which board is it on? initials/clues will probably do if you don't want to promote that site's name.

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It was on Facebook actually, a group ''St Peters Barbados'' a bit difficult as a lot is in patois/Dialect-speak
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Well, you know, some people can't take a joke.

And, on the boards things like tone of voice can't be heard, so sometimes they don't realize it is a joke.

Or is it possible that the subject actually had a warrant out for them and thought somehow you had discovered it?

I guess I have a bit of a reputation for the ironic comments here ... I do try to put or after them. But I seem to remember a rather trivial post that Johnthed0g misunderstood a while back, and I had to apologize for it.

But usually my attitude is, "Frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn!"

(you did see the after it, didn't you, moderators?)
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Yeah.... but nobody would actually THINK that I would mean she was wanted dead or alive now would they??
Don't recall being offended,,,couldn't have been much. The only thing that has annoyed me was being told that I should not drink a certain wine by a wine snob.
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It was on Facebook actually,Log In | Facebook

Oh we have never bothered to sign up for any of those new fangled social group ideas

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Oh we have never bothered to sign up for any of those new fangled social group ideas

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Well it was a Barbados group & I wanted to keep in the loop with the Island where we spent so many happy days
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Oh we have never bothered to sign up for any of those new fangled social group ideas

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I don't have a FB A/C either - can't help with allegedly offensive post.

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This is about it after a struggle to do it....
John... ''How clever! especially the way you removed the wording that said "wanted dead or alive"

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Sorry JTD, I am still puzzled..........

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I have copied what I said + a link to the pic in question, I just wondered what people think caused such offence? I does look like a "wanted Pic'' though!!
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I think they're overly sensitive. The picture is nothing to be concerned about. In fact, she's a pretty girl! I say let it be and drop it. Sometimes people just don't have a sense of humor. Sad.
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Overly sensitive ....you can say that again!! some were going bonkers, terms like "unspeakably rude" They were saying that I deliberately insult people & I just don't see what they mean.
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Wow very odd, the only person who ever got upset with me for a happy birthday comment was my sister when I said she was born in the 50's - she was born January 1960. Ooops.

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I looked at it and have no idea why people would be offended by it.
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Just to be clear...it was me saying it was clever how they removed the "wanted dead or alive'' wording from the poster that caused the uproar. Beats me!! They obviously didn't "get" the joke & asked what I meant, when I explained the joke by trying to de-construct it they said I was now being patronising & sarcastic.....
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I would be amongst the first to tell you if you had been offensive - you haven't. They should explain to you why it was offensive and they haven't have they?

Put it behind you and move on.

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Just interested in the opinions of others, nobody has found what I said in the slightest offensive...so as they say move on & forget it. I do find it hard to accept that when several people complain admin just go along with the majority irrespective of who is right or wrong.
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