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Binaca333 February 15th, 2008 03:52 PM

Married couple working on ships..Good idea?
 
Hi Everyone, My husband and I are highly considering working on a cruiseship together soon. I have read many good things online like; this is a good way to save money, a lot of companies are accomodating to rooming us together, etc. However I do want to know how life on board is for the couple?

I have a friend that used to work on the ships 18 years ago and now she works for Carnival CL Corporate. Her experience was great as a single person, however she thinks that men will be all over me and women will be throwing themselves at my husband. She said that some of the men from other countries don't have much regard for the marriage and try to hook up with american women to gain american citizenship. I believe my husband and I have a strong marriage, but I don't want constant harrassment.

I also am curious about sexual harassment laws and if they are enforced on international waters?

If there are any married couples out there that can give any info, or any other crew members that know how this all goes, that would be tremendously helpful!!!!

Also, does anyone know of any companies that for sure do or don't currently accomodate rooming/ship for new employees that are married?

Thank you thank you thank you! :)

Arion February 17th, 2008 05:56 PM

Re: Married couple working on ships..Good idea?
 
[quote="Binaca333"]
I have a friend that used to work on the ships 18 years ago and now she works for Carnival CL Corporate. Her experience was great as a single person, however she thinks that men will be all over me and women will be throwing themselves at my husband. She said that some of the men from other countries don't have much regard for the marriage and try to hook up with american women to gain american citizenship. I believe my husband and I have a strong marriage, but I don't want constant harrassment.[quote]

There are two categorys of people in this world. You and your husband have to decide what category you're going to fit into. Do you fit into the group of people who are constantly harrassed? Or are you perhaps, the type of people who people harrass once, and regret it for a long time. A short temper, in which you display the amount of restraint that you are having to use, can sometimes assist you in fitting into the latter category.

MrMate February 18th, 2008 05:48 AM

Re: Married couple working on ships..Good idea?
 
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Originally Posted by Binaca333
She said that some of the men from other countries don't have much regard for the marriage and try to hook up with american women to gain american citizenship.

This may come as a chock to you, but for most ship crew the US is far from paradise on earth, rather the opposite :D:D

My experience is that it's a lot up to the couple how their relationship will be respected. If the wife is flirting a lot and in general behaving quite slutty, of course many men will hit on her. The same goes for the man.

I met my wife onboard and we lived together on ships for two years before we settled down ashore. It was known to everyone onboard that we were together and had a serious relationship, so we didn't experience any harassment.

That being said, don't expect life onboard to be anything like a normal life on land - there are a million codes :)
But if you adapt well to changes and are ok with a privacy limited to your very small cabin this may be a nice experience.

And if harassment really becomes a problem, just report it to your superior and it will be dealt with promptly - the cruise lines are very strict on that.

Binaca333 February 18th, 2008 06:53 PM

Good to hear
 
Thanks Mr. Mate and Arion for your responses so far :wink: . I don't know if it was my friends bad experience or what that made her very negative about the whole idear.

So Mr. Mate, what jobs did you and your wife have? Was it easy to renew your contracts together once you got through the first one as a couple?

My husband is thinking of applying for a bartender job and I am going for a cruise staff position. Any suggestions for the application process?

Thanks everyone! :D

Binaca

sz February 18th, 2008 11:07 PM

if your from the US - bartending gigs are scarce for US citizens unless it's NCLA (now down to one ship?)

Speaking about RCCL - they'll berth married couples together if they're in the same department AND the berthing allows. It's never guaranteed. If the couple work in different departments - it's very hard as, say, the bar department gets "X" amount of cabins and the cruise division also gets their X amount of room and have to house everyone by gender. I've know several married couples who had to wait until the right number of male/female combinations came and went to possibly be in the same room, and then only for a couple of months.

If you're serious (and from the US), you might want to look into the art auction (parkwest) or shopping guide programs (onboard media) as they hire couples often and would house them together (and usually really good money). The concessions (photo/shops/casino) also often hire couples as they can berth them together easier.

Yes - the lifestyle is quite different and there are many who won't respect marriage, but it happens on land also . . . it's just on a ship everyone knows everyones business and quickly.

MrMate February 19th, 2008 03:37 AM

Re: Good to hear
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by Binaca333
Thanks Mr. Mate and Arion for your responses so far :wink: . I don't know if it was my friends bad experience or what that made her very negative about the whole idear.

So Mr. Mate, what jobs did you and your wife have? Was it easy to renew your contracts together once you got through the first one as a couple?

My husband is thinking of applying for a bartender job and I am going for a cruise staff position. Any suggestions for the application process?

Thanks everyone! :D

Binaca

Well, in our case it was a bit different. We met onboard (the beautiful SS Norway RIP :( ) I was first officer and she was initially in the purser department, but transfered to cruise staff. But when I later got promoted to the Majesty, she was granted transfer as well. I don't know if it was the official NCL policy, or just goodwill from the HR department.

cruisecouple July 12th, 2008 03:05 AM

good idea but be on birth control

Paul Motter July 12th, 2008 04:33 PM

I think it is sad that you would even ask that question aboutr sexual harassment and the women throwing themselves at your husband.

I worked on six different ships. On one the band leader had his wife and 5 year-old boy living with him.

No one ever brought up the top of sexual harassment on any ship, you have been reading too much propaganda. When 98% of the crew is single, why would anyone hit on the married people - unless they were inviting it.

Remember, the people working on ships have jobs they want to keep. They aren't going to risk their jobs doing stupid things. Anything you have read about uninvited sex on ships is the rare case, one in a million.

But as others said - good luck. The cruise lines have found married couples generally do not make committed long-term employees compared to single people (or working as a single, anyway), and so rarely do they hire couples as a team. You had both be very qualified at the job you want.

Good luck, though.

Panda September 20th, 2014 02:50 PM

Married couple
 
My husband and I are also considering work on a cruise ship. We are both personal trainers who have BA degrees in different fields that we no longer want to pursue, my husband has been working as a PT for a year now and I've recently got my full qualification .

Some site's members say we have a 1% chance of being on the same ship and others say we might get onto the same ship and we can always apply for a transfer if we don't but we might not even get a shared rooms :cry:?? A lot of mixed info going around, so I suppose it depends on the company? Are there any married couples who could give some advice or share their experience?:oops:

We will have to invest a lot of money to make this work and it would be a game changer if we aren't able to be together at all, as we already went through 3 years of long distance during our relationship.

Thank you in advance.

jakov.fisel November 1st, 2014 02:57 PM

Hey,

just want to say that on my cruise line Aida (German/Carnival group) it is comon thing to see married couples. Infact the company will find for you and your partner the same embarkation date and a cabin to share.
It is in the companys intrest to see you work happy and always smile, and whats better then to work with you life partner :)

Check out my blog about Cruise ship life
Work&Travel

Ty

taoist November 4th, 2014 06:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Panda (Post 1507549)
My husband and I are also considering work on a cruise ship. We are both personal trainers who have BA degrees in different fields that we no longer want to pursue, my husband has been working as a PT for a year now and I've recently got my full qualification .

Some site's members say we have a 1% chance of being on the same ship and others say we might get onto the same ship and we can always apply for a transfer if we don't but we might not even get a shared rooms :cry:?? A lot of mixed info going around, so I suppose it depends on the company? Are there any married couples who could give some advice or share their experience?:oops:

We will have to invest a lot of money to make this work and it would be a game changer if we aren't able to be together at all, as we already went through 3 years of long distance during our relationship.

Thank you in advance.

Panda,

The bulk of all the spa/gym operations on all the different cruise lines are sub contracted out to Steiners. There are a few exceptions but effectively they have a monopoly. To put it in basic terms they treat their staff atrociously, very low pay and some of the worst contract terms you will find on ships. Steiners have to pay towards their cabin whilst they are onboard, pay is commision based of which you will recieve a very small cut.Depending on the ship they may only have one instructor with the larger ships having two or three I think on the Allure and Oasis class.
Having seen how steiners treat their staff I honestly think they couldnt care less about having to make the effort to accomodate you together on a ship.
You could try applying anyway, the turnover is high and I know a few friends who left after significant cuts to their earning potential onboard.

I think there is another Spa company called Canyon Ranch, I think they do a few of the luxury cruise lines, don't know anything about them but may be worth investigating.


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